We all know June is wedding season, so now is a good time to look at the customs and traditions of a Jewish wedding in the Old Testament and see how it is an analogy for the Bride of Christ. As you will see, there are many similarities.
There are seven components of an Old Testament Jewish wedding feast. The first component is the covenant, taken from Genesis 1:26-27, 2:18, 21-24. Back in the day, a young man would spot a beautiful young lady he wanted as a wife, or the young lady that his father said he wanted for him. He would approach her with a marriage contract in hand, called the ketubbah. He would then present it to the girl’s father and ask her father, “What is the price?” This fee the second component, the dowry. For the bridegroom would be the one to pay the price, if he is to marry her. He would hold onto it as a nest egg for his daughter. The groom would be displaying his love for her, and showing respect to her father, by paying her debt or price. Once the contract has been signed, they are married in the eyes of God, but the marriage will not be consummated yet. (As a side note, for Mary and Joseph, this is the point of their relationship when the angel told her she would conceive a son.)
The future bride and groom would then go have a glass of wine together to seal the agreement, the third component, known as the cup. She was to remain a virgin until the wedding or the whole thing would be called off and she would be considered unholy.
The fourth component is the departure. Before the young man was getting ready to depart from his future bride and go back to his father’s house, he would would tell her “I go and prepare a place for you.” The bride will be waiting for him and him alone. He would then return home to his father’s house and he will build for her the bridal chamber, a little mansion, in which they’ll have their future honeymoon.
Now this project should take about a year. The father’s job is to be the judge, you know, make sure the son doesn’t do a “half job”, as my father would say. Let’s face it folks, young man wants to be done as fast as possible for one reason only, and we all know what it is. Now when the bridal chamber was completely done and decorated, and the father approved it, the bridegroom would go and get his bride. If someone would have asked the young man when is the big day he would respond, “Only my Father knows”.
Now while all this is happening the bride was told to be ready for she didn’t know what time the bridegroom was going to show up and snatch her up and take her away. Now if she had to go somewhere, she would have to wear her veil so all the young men would know she was not available. Otherwise they might see her and offer her a contract, she was not to be touched.
Before the Bridegroom was to leave to go get her, he would assemble all his young friends and they would leave to go get his bride in the middle of the night and surprise the bride. This is the fifth component, stealing the bride.
As the bridegroom and all of his friends would be close to the house, one of the groom’s men would shout, she would hear the shouting from outside the house and rush to put herself together. She only had enough time to grab some honeymoon clothes, couple of things and put oil in her lamp in order to meet him. Anyone who wanted to be part of the entourage would have to trim their wicks and make sure they had enough oil in their lamp.
As the bridegroom would run into the house the father would look and make sure it was the son in law who had the contract, then he would look away as this man stole his daughter. Meanwhile, the wedding party would be waiting in full excitement. Everyone would be out in the streets with their lamps. The bride and groom would walk the streets with the entire wedding party shouting and celebrating.
When they all would get back to the groom’s father’s house, the father would assemble all the guests, which were the father’s friends, and they would be ready to celebrate the new marriage.
Everything had to be ready quickly for the wedding feast was to take place over the next seven days.
In the sixth component, the consummation, the bride and groom would go in and close the door of the bridal chamber, and the best man would stand outside the door and listen for the groom to tell him that the marriage was consummated.
Finally, when the bride and groom came out then and only then would the celebration and feasting begin. This is the seventh component, the marriage supper.
Once the bride and groom appeared before all the guests at the end of seven days, they would enjoy the marriage supper known as the reception. In honor of this joyous occasion the bride would take off her veil and throw it, for the two have become one.
As Christians, we can look at the relationship of the components of the wedding feast to our lives as the Bride of Christ. All believers in Christ Jesus are the Bride, and he is our Bridegroom. Ephesians 5:21-26 says
21Also submit yourselves to one another out of reverence for Messiah— 22 wives to your own husbands as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as Messiah also is head of His community—Himself the Savior of the body. 24 But as Messiah’s community is submitted to Messiah, so also the wives to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives just as Messiah also loved His community and gave Himself up for her 26 to make her holy, having cleansed her by immersion[d] in the word. (TLV)
If you are a believer in Christ Jesus and have received his Son Jesus into your life and are living for Him, you are considered to be the Bride of Christ. The Church is made up of the body of Believers in Christ Jesus. The Church is the Bride of Christ as the Jews are the Wife of Jehovah.
So just as the groom approached the bride with a contract, we as believers are also contracted to Christ. God set it up to where God the Father, much like the father of the groom, made the arrangement to go and pay the price for his Bride. He wouldn’t pay in shekels or gold, or silver. He would pay a much more costly price, He would pay with blood. For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son up as a living sacrifice. It is through His sacrifice and shedding of His blood that the arrangement was sealed by the blood of Jesus. Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it. He paid the debt for us. This is the cup, the new covenant of His blood. We remember this every time we take part in the Lord’s Supper or Communion.
The same way the bridegroom goes to his father’s house and prepares a room for his bride, Christ is preparing a place for us. (John 14:1-6).
We as the bride are still in fact being prepared for our bride groom. We must always be ready, just like the bride and her friends were to be ready with oil in their lamps (Matthew 25). This is sanctification, being set apart and holy. As we wait for our long awaited Bridegroom let us continue to be transformed by the Word of God. Let us continue to seek the Lord in prayer, never losing hope for he is coming back. We too must go through a spiritual cleansing in the waters of baptism. We will one day present ourselves to the Lord, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, holy and without blemish. Paul states in 2 Corinthians 11:2,
For I am jealous for you with godly jealousy, For i have betrothed you to one husband, that I may present you a pure virgin to Christ.
The fetching of the bride is the Rapture of the Church as talked about in 1st Thessalonians 4:16-17. When the Lord comes back to fetch his Bride, he will rapture the church and we will be taken home to be with him.
Matthew 24:36 tells us that no one knows the time or the hour, not the angels, not even the Son, but the Father Only. We don’t know when Jesus is returning for his bride but rest assured he is coming. 1 Thessalonians 5:2 tells us that the day of the Lord comes like a thief in the night, to “steal” his bride.
Just like the bride stands on her wedding day wearing white, we too are given white to wear. It says in Revelation 19:8,
And to her it was granted to be arrayed in fine linen, clean and bright, for the fine linen is the righteous acts of the saints.
There will be a ceremony in Heaven but not all will be invited, only the ones who have been resurrected. All believers in Christ Jesus who have been washed in the Blood of the Lamb. Jesus has called you out of darkness and into light. For you were once God’s enemy now you are a friend of God. You have been added to God’s family, you are Royalty.
There will be a banquet set before you as nothing like you or I have ever seen. The only way to be invited to the wedding of the Lamb is to be washed clean in His blood.
Matthew 11:28 says,
Come to me, all you who are weary and heavy burdened and I will give you rest.
Come lay your burdens down, Cry out to him, for he is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins, and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.